How to See When Safety is at Risk
Do you run and hide, fight back, or get to dialogue?

People who consistently handle crucial conversations well constantly monitor three key elements in order to avoid getting sucked into “fight or flight” behavior.

First, they watch to see if a conversation has turned crucial.

Second they notice if they or others are starting to feel unsafe. More specifically they watch for the six forms of silence and violence.

Finally, they are acutely aware of their own Style Under Stress and as matters heat up they do their best to avoid slipping into old habits.

How about you?

The Style Under Stress Test is a 33-question assessment that enables you to see how you respond in specific crucial conversations in a specific relationship. The results indicate your natural tendencies to move toward silence or violence and the extent to which you use (or fail to use) skills in dialogue.

Please read the instructions first as they help you answer the questions in a specific and helpful way.